Love sucks when u can't have "a happy ever after"
Love sucks when it has to go away
Love sucks when it's felt for the wrong person
Love sucks when u can't love in return
Love sucks when u can't sleep, thinking of another
Love sucks when it can't be expressed
Love sucks when it brings out a tear in your eye
Love sucks when your heart bleeds
What's the essence of love?
Love makes the world go round. . . Duh! It doesn't cos it just died here.
Love's been shot
Love's so dead.
If cupid comes knocking again, please show him the next door.
From: A bleeding heart
Well, maybe you haven't realised how to enjoy love. Most girls don't know how to actually.
ReplyDeleteReally? So, you think guys are better lovers?
ReplyDeleteYea, we understand love better.
DeleteLook at your first stanza, apart from lines 1, 8 and 9; the other lines are testimony to the cliché female fantasies.
Girls will always have those Disney cartoons and Mills & Boom characters and events whenever the think of love. The truth is, that's not the kind of love Cupid offers.
hmmm . . . quite interesting.
ReplyDeleteI may need to learn what cupid offers more from you.
You are kinda right. Most times, we get carried away with our fantasies forgetting there is something called reality.
Lol, well I can always teach ya. Free of charge also.
ReplyDeleteA second cousin took out some novels and burnt all one or two months ago. Her anger was that the novels have made her believe in 'romance novel' kinda. She said if I had friends to give it to and I said most of my friends don't believe in them again.
awww. . . would have love to have them. I don't do Mills & Booms though.
ReplyDeleteU see . . .love sucks sometimes.lol
Love doesn't suck. We think it does. But we are allowed to think like that sometimes. But on the long run, with age, we realise we've been the ones making it suck.
ReplyDeleteHow has love ever sucked for you before?
Thought I had replied to this. Didn't you like the reply?
ReplyDeleteSorry dear, I moderate, so I didn't get to see d notification early enuf.
ReplyDeleteI believe in love. But some times, u can't be with d one u love mainly for some reason or d oda n dat hurts badly. Those few times r times I think it sucks.
Why fall in love with someone when u know u can't be with the person? But, can we help it some times? No.
So, we move on, sacrificing our love.
When does it suck then?
ReplyDeleteWhen people say an affair sucked, you know my first question for them? Did you enjoy it while it lasted? If they say yes, I then ask why did you say it sucked then? If they say no, then I'll ask why they stayed?
So you see either we suck not really Cupid or love.
So, we are the problem.
ReplyDeletehmm . . . I hope you stick around more
How to enjoy love? There are lots of ways. We love the way we want to be loved in return. And also try to love our spouses the way they want to be love. Be their friends and all.
ReplyDelete"We love the way we want to be loved in return. And also try to love our spouses the way they want to be love. Be their friends and all."
ReplyDeleteWhat if you love the way you love to be loved and you don't get to be loved that way in return. What do you do?
That's why love isn't selfish. With my wife, we both have a way we want to be loved. But during courtship, we both agreed that we couldn't both completely love each other exactly the way we both wanted. So we made compromises.
ReplyDeleteExample, one of us didn't like holding or kissing in public, so we don't usually do it. One of us didn't like chatting on BB after 10pm, so we also reduced that too.
So you can't be loved 100% of how we want to, but the little efforts our spouses make should be well appreciated by us.
So answer to your question, continue loving, loving in a particular way can be learnt over time.
ok. I see a lot of sacrifices here. What happens if the sacrifices are made by only one party? If one party wants to continue living for him/herself and still wants to be loved in a certain way, Isn't that selfish?
ReplyDeleteHow do you manage such a spouse?
If it's the normal single everyday relationships, it's always better to reconsider the relationship.
ReplyDeleteIf it's in marriage, the parties probably noticed these traits before saying 'I do'. So I always advice married folks learn to live with the 'selfishness'. Teach people to love by (sensibly)loving them. Marriages are usually like good wine, the older the tastier.
Patience is truly a virtue.
ReplyDeleteTalking marriage now, you are right about noticing these traits. But sometimes when u see genuine progress in your partner, it's normal for you to believe things will stay that way, as in "work in progress". We all learn everyday and no one is perfect.
Would you blame a spouse that wants out because his/her partner is selfish and has refused to put equal effort into making the marriage work?
Depends on what you mean by making marriage work oh.
ReplyDeleteI always say to people, as long as a spouse takes care of your basic needs (depending on who is the breadwinner), you shouldn't want out. So unless the spouse stops providing for you and such stuff, I would blame a spouse who wants out. I love people who stick to their marriages and try their best to make it 'work'.
U said basic needs and mention bread winner as well. Is the woman suppose to be the bread winner? Are you saying, if your wife can't provide for your basic needs as the bread winner, you can leave her?
ReplyDeletePlease clarify.
Sorry, if it appears I'm on your case. I just want to learn more from you.
Hey, I'm enjoying the conversation na. So feel free to ask questions, okay?
ReplyDeleteTo clarify myself, you'll agree with me that in some families, the husband is usually richer than the wife. Like the husband is working and the wife isn't. In some families also, the wife is working while the husband isn't.
There are needs that are basic in every family. Food, shelter, clothing, water... A spouse can deny you a fancy car, or blings, or costly trips to Paris, and all that. Those wants or 'needs' aren't exactly basic.
If I have the means to provide for my wife's basic needs and I choose not to, isn't that funny? I don't give her money to cook and all that.
The same way, what if I don't have a job at the moment and my wife is working and earning good money but for some reason decides that she won't provide the basic needs for the family at that moment? Isn't it same thing?
I am just trying to say as long as a spouse is providing your basic needs, then you guys can always work things out. But when they fail to provide, even when they have the means, then there is an issue.
*Hope you know some women also misuse money given to them. In such situations when the woman uses money given to her for food to buy some fancy clothes and jewellery, then if the man stops giving her money, would you blame the man? Mumi Tani, would you blame the man?
I wont blame the man, but he still has to perform his basic responsiblities in the family. He can just cut down the allowance.
ReplyDeleteI get your drift on the basic need issue. Where I have a problem is when the wife is working her socks off providing for the family, cooking, taking care of the home and stuff like that and the hubby still doesn't appreciate her. Would you blame her if she stops and insist the man carry his responsibilities?
Secondly, are basic needs only limited to food, clothing and shelter? What about sex, quality time, affection and the likes? You can borrow to settle feeding, clothing and shelther, but can u borrow sex from someone else? If a spouse is denying his/her these things, then he or she is looking for trouble cos the other partner will seek the attention elsewhere.
Btw, are u a nairalander?
I was carried away by the comments, then they ended abruptly. So much love in the conversation and then it ended just like that. Love does suck.
ReplyDeleteHey Eyefizzy,
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by.
No so we see am o. I was also enjoying the flow, but Nerdycassanova (what a funny name) did not show up again.
And lol @ at love does suck.
Looooool.
ReplyDeleteI guess he ran out of what to say. But it was a nice chat.
Hey! Is this Nerdy now or Eyefizzy? :D
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